Help! My husband is obsessed with Christmas. Seriously, it looks like Santa threw up in on our house. I like Christmas as much as the next person, but he goes way over the top. He recently asked to start role playing Santa during our nighttime activities. Look, I’m attracted to my husband, but not a fat old man with a bushy beard. What do I do? 

Steve: How about going back into the past, where it's more interesting? Was the original Santa a funny fat guy in 280 A.D.? No! In fact his name was St. Nicholas, not Santa Claus. Was Nick a party guy like Santa? No! Nick gave away all of his inherited wealth and traveled the countryside to help the poor and sick. Heck, he donated money for poor girls who'd otherwise be sold into prostitution! The great saint was born on Dec. 6 in what is today Turkey. After Nick's death, his birthday slowly became the date to help the poor. So, Christmas should be a giveaway to the poor, not a buy-away by the rich.

Mia: Great answer from Steve! All I'd like to add is Christmas is just one day out of a year. Why not buy a sexy elf costume and play along?

Could you please help me with a big decision that’s time sensitive?  Since I don’t have any family and am always alone for holidays unless someone invites me to join their family celebrations, I travel. I like to leave Christmas Day and return on New Year’s Day, when it’s not so crowded. I met a man about a month ago and enjoyed myself very much. I’m considering cancelling my trip to Jamaica so we can spend time over the holidays. That’s all I really want is someone to spend time with. But he hasn’t asked me yet. Should I go ahead and cancel my trip and just wait and see what happens?  I’m tempted, but my friends say I’m crazy.  What should I do? 

Mia: Listen to your friends. If you stick around here and the dude doesn't invite you out for New Year's Eve, you're going to be upset. You'd better get on that plane! Send him some sexy bikini pics of you on the beach. If he's the one for you, he'll be here when you get back.

Steve: Mia's right. If the man thinks you are happy with or without him, he'll be interested. If he thinks you live for him, then he'll treat you like a door mat. Go on the Jamaica jet and then have fun!  That way you become win-win instead of lose-lose.