Mia: You have yourself a starfish. That's when women lie on a bed, limbs spread, and pretty much zone out. If that's not working for you, you're going to have to tell her.
Steve: Take the starfish as a challenge. Have you examined your own love-making skills lately? I'd bone up on the foreplay and aim for more moans and some groans, too. Go slow and good luck.
Steve: He is not staying with her just for the kids. After three years, you ought to know the score and it has you holding a goose egg. You need to drop him and get support from friends, family or a therapist.