Mia: I actually am married to a procrastinator whose favorite word is "mañana." But I made peace with it early on because I'd rather break every piece of china in the house than turn into the kind of woman who nags her husband about washing dishes or doing chores. I'm not going to do it. I love him and value our relationship too much to do that. If the house needs extra cleaning and we don't feel like doing it, we hire a house keeper. That leaves more time for date nights and other fun stuff. I suggest you try it. Being married to a control freak is no fun. I feel sorry for your husband, girlfriend. Lighten up.
Steve: Thanks for liking me and I'm a 50-50 guy, but I'm not going nuts over things that don't get done. I do them myself. Also, there's things I like to do 100 percent: Fixing things, not washing them. So I fix all lights, hammer everything that needs it, do most of the dishes, oversee the trees and grass. She cooks every weekend, does all the laundry, uses the vacuum cleaner and remembers all the bills. Is it perfect? Beats me. But if that stuff was causing a marriage problem, I'd be looking at the marriage, not the messy dishes.
Steve: On your dates, how much do you get to know them? Do you ask many questions? Do you ask, for example, what kinds of things they like to do? What topics they like to discuss? What movies they like to see? If you didn't do any of that, or other topics, then you've got a problem. Put your ego aside and use it to find out what the woman likes.