She's pregnant, but he can't end his affair

DEAR ABBY: My husband of eight years had an affair with an old girlfriend, who is also married. I have spent the last nine months trying to forgive him, but he keeps breaking my heart because he can't seem to get over her.

First he was sending her emails, then trying to call her because he felt so guilty over the affair and "needed someone to talk to." Next, he went over to her house to see her. I know he loves me, but I know without a doubt he loves her, too. I'm expecting and due in the short-term, and I don't know how to heal.

The last time they talked - about a month ago - he told her that she had ruined his life and he never wanted to see or think about her again. But I know he still searches her profile on Facebook every day and I know she blocked him. I haven't confronted him about this yet, but feel I need to. Please help me.

- Brokenhearted in Buffalo

DEAR BROKENHEARTED: The old girlfriend seems to be doing her part to end the affair. Whether your husband is "going nuts" because he can't see her on Facebook is his problem, so please don't make it yours.

Bide your time, have your baby, and then when you're strong enough, do confront him. Insist on marriage counseling for both of you. You need to understand why he strayed before you or the marriage can heal.

DEAR ABBY: At what age should parents stop worrying about you? I am 41 years old, but in my parents' eyes I am still a child.

I am an independent woman and feel like I am not living the life I deserve, and I don't think it's fair. I do everything by myself, and I want them to know that if something happens to them, I'll be fine, and they should stop worrying. Am I wrong to feel this way?

- Deborah in Ohio

DEAR DEBORAH: You are not wrong. However, your parents may be clinging to you not because they are worried about what will happen to you if something happens to them. They may be clingy because they are worried about what will happen to them if something happens to you.